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Having to Do With The Recent Drama
From Charlie the Unicorn, Ace Detective: Privilege Denying Asexuals…
Potential trigger warning for sexist slurs, discussion of coercive sexual situations, asexual denial and erasure, and abundant profanity.
Asexuals are a sexual minority. Asexuals deal with shit for being a sexual minority. Is that hard to grasp?
From Miss Mary Max: Not That PDA: Unpacking the Notion of Asexual Privilege
For ace privilege to exist, there would have to be a systemic benefit to asexuality – a system of benefits denied to sexual people. But ace people are not propped up socially at the expense of sexuals. The vast majority of people don’t even know asexuals exist.
And second, I’d postulate that demisexuality as it is actually defined is not what society would consider an appropriate sexuality for a woman to begin with. Rather, the ideal female sexuality according to the definition the kyriarchy would have us accept is a type of monogamy or serial monogamy in which a woman, under the umbrella of a committed monogamous relationship, feels attracted to her partner and wants to have sex with him. This might fit some demisexual women, but not all!
From Tafadhali: Goddamnit, I hate privilegedenyingasexuals
That doesn’t really happen for demis. I can only really speak for myself here, but finding someone I actually want to be in a relationship with? Is incredibly difficult.
As a result, sexual people, when you’re doing the “let’s delete the -romantic a-” thing? You’re not presenting a new and novel idea to the Xromantic aces who have totally never considered identifying as anything other than ace. Chances are most of them have already tried fitting into the “Xsexual” box, and most of the ones who were fine with just that as their identity stayed there. When you’re talking to the Xromantic aces you’re in large part talking to the group who tried it and couldn’t stand it and you’re asking them to go back anyway, just so they can better fit into YOUR worldview.
Yes they can. And fuck anyone who feels like identity policing that.
From Captain Heartless: Hidden Sexual Normativity
Often times these people have rejected the idea that sex is morally bad- which is progress. But they have failed to reject the idea that sex is a moral issue. Instead, they still cling to the idea that one’s preferences regarding sex directly represent one’s moral character (they don’t), and that is reflected in how they react to asexuality.
From Skeptic’s Play: Privilege is not ordered
Another big misconception is the idea that groups are ordered from most privileged to least privileged. In truth, two groups can each be privileged over the other in different ways.
Trigger warning for corrective rape and asexual denial and erasure.
From gallifreyanteenagerebel: Sexual privilege and my life
Please do not try and erase the horrible things that have happened to me because of my prior orientation or my asexuality. It makes me very upset in a way I can’t even describe.
Trigger warning for traumatic sexual encounters.
From babykillinglesbians: Trigger Warning: Internalized Sexualism
So, since this whole asexual-bashing thing is going around at the moment, can I just state how desperately badly I wish I was sexual.
Having to Do With Other Interesting Things
From Intimacy Cartography: Towards a Better Model of Attraction
From grasexuality: On the Definition of Sexual Attraction
I’m writing a much longer post about attraction and the asexual identity, which should cover a lot more issues, but I thought I’d get this definition of Sexual Attraction that I’m working on circulating to get some opinions.
From outlawroad: My Core Relationships: Or, Wanting Stuff Without Clear Labels
I think it’s important for me to say that I experience romantic feelings on a spectrum, rather than in an “either/or” fashion. I don’t feel romantic feelings for ONLY one person at a time or in ONLY one way and I don’t associate romantic feelings exclusively with traditional couple relationships. I think there’s more than one kind of romantic love (you’ll see what I mean, below), and I think you can have different kinds of romantic relationships and more than one at the same time.
From asexual curiosities: Power to the poly
In short, non-monogamy has its drawbacks. By offering it as one of the first and most major ways asexuals can make it work, we’re enforcing the idea that asexuals are responsible for taming this uncontrolled beast of sexual attraction, a beast that I’ll soon argue is fictitious. Non-monogamy is simply not a practical option for a lot of asexuals, and we need to address that.
From asexualnews: Asexual Suicide Project–Full Details from Narrow Path Publishing Owner
Purpose: To expose the frequency of suicidal thoughts, feelings and actions within the asexual community, as a precursor to engaging the asexual community and possibly other communities in suicide prevention efforts for the community.
From the Asexual Sexologist: June 2011 Survey, Topic: You and the LGBT(+++) Community
If you’d like to share your experiences and perspectives I’d love to hear them!
From Asexual Explorations: Radical refusals: On the anarchist politics of women choosing asexuality
Up to this point, when I have announced articles, I’ve decided to that I should keep my opinions to myself regarding what I thought of the article. This one has convinced me not to do that anymore, largely because I feel that it needs to go in my bibliography, but also needs a comment/warning.