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May 1, 2011

A Carnival of Aces Round-Up: Coming Out

Filed under: Carnival of Aces — Sciatrix @ 12:26 pm
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Welcome to the round-up for the first edition of the Carnival of Aces!

First, thank you to everyone who participated or commented on participating posts. This carnival couldn’t happen without you guys, and I was really thrilled to see the level of response that came out of this project. You guys are awesome.

Certain themes ran through many of this month’s responses. Many people talked about being afraid to come out, while several people who had come out described it as anticlimactic. Several people thought that coming out wasn’t worth the hassle. A lot of people discussed coming out as something that is a lot easier online than offline. The theme of dealing with negative reactions in particular ran strongly through almost every response. Regardless of topic, though, I was thrilled to see every entry, and I can’t wait to see what else the carnival goes on to produce.


Siggy talks about being an experienced outcomer–and about how coming out never really stops.

Teafeather wonders how coming out might be made easier for asexuals.

Astrid discusses the difficulties of coming out for one personality in a multiple system.

Elizabeth talks about pressuring people to come out and why that’s a bad idea.

Pipisafoat doesn’t like the term “coming out” at all–after all, zie’s not exactly hiding!

Anonymous thinks it’s better to show, not tell.

Wiring’s not sure coming out is worth it.

The Ace student has good reasons for not outing herself to everyone.

The Ace Eccentric is choosy about who gets to know–and most of them are on the Internet.

Avail is very slowly sliding out of the closet.

Pippin is coming out of the closet in stages, too.

Lasciel doesn’t want to be closeted ever again.

Eowyn thinks that coming out reminds people that we exist.

Divalady shares her feelings on a very uneventful coming out experience.

Gretchen’s coming out was similarly anticlimactic.

Elizabeth Barrette contributes a poem about an asexual character coming out.

And I told the story of the process I went through before I decided to come out at all.

And with that, the carnival draws to a close for the month! The next round of the carnival will be held by Ily at Asexy Beast and will be concluded on June 1.

Thank you all!


  1. Thank you for the round-up and the mention. Do you know what the theme will be for the next carnival?

    Comment by Astrid — May 1, 2011 @ 1:34 pm | Reply

    • No problem!

      I do not know what next theme is. Ily should be posting about it sometime fairly soon.

      Comment by Sciatrix — May 1, 2011 @ 5:27 pm | Reply

  2. Oh, my post the other day actually was for the carnival, not criticizing it. Sorry it seems that wasn’t clear!

    Comment by Elizabeth — May 1, 2011 @ 4:01 pm | Reply

    • Whoops, sorry! I wasn’t quite sure–it’s going into the lineup now!

      Comment by Sciatrix — May 1, 2011 @ 5:23 pm | Reply

  3. You seem to have left out my post, which was poetry instead of prose. Was that deliberate? Are you only accepting nonfiction?

    The guidelines looked inclusive: “The scope of this project is general–any post dealing with both asexuality and the theme of the carnival is welcome. Alternate forms of media are also welcome as long as they deal with the prompt! If you’re not sure whether your piece is okay, submit it anyway and we’ll figure it out.”

    Comment by Elizabeth Barrette — May 1, 2011 @ 9:07 pm | Reply

    • No, it was not deliberate. It was a result of my having access to a public computer for a limited amount of time and trying to compile the round-up posts as quickly as possible. I made at least two other mistakes in compiling the round-up post, in fact; Elizabeth’s post was also left out, and initially one of the guest posts was neither linked to nor was the summarizing sentence completed. I was able to get back to those later on, but I missed your post when doing so. Thank you for bringing this error to my attention.

      It’s been added into the round-up. My apologies for the mistake.

      Comment by Sciatrix — May 1, 2011 @ 10:00 pm | Reply

  4. Thank you for organising this! 🙂

    Comment by pippin — May 2, 2011 @ 12:25 am | Reply

  5. Nice! thanks for the work you (and the posters of course) went through.


    I regret not being able to participate for this (and, well, anything else, like the disability blog carnival for May) this month. The only post I managed to churn out was a random post with lots of pictures about stuff I’ve been doing lately :S
    Maybe for June.

    Comment by Norah — May 2, 2011 @ 10:03 am | Reply

    • Hey, that’s why the point is to have a monthly carnival–so that if you miss one, well, there’s always another one coming up again if you have time later. 🙂 I’m glad you’re enjoying reading the posts!

      Comment by Sciatrix — May 4, 2011 @ 12:49 pm | Reply

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