Writing From Factor X

January 25, 2011


Filed under: Signal Boost — Sciatrix @ 7:29 pm
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Because really, there have been some wonderful and often heartbreaking pieces written about asexuality lately, and more people should read them.

From Swankivy: Asexuality is Not Antisexuality

What sexual people need to understand about asexuals is that we are not against sex and that we do not wish to be perceived as being “better than you.”

From Capncosmo: On The Elusive Asexual Oppression and Visibility

You guys, I don’t think we should let hypothetical death threats that may or may not materialize scare us into being willing to live with the nightmares, or the regrets, or the silence, or the lies.

From Elizabeth-Hoot: The X Factor

I was what I was. I wanted what I was to be acceptable. I wanted to be me, with my books and my cat and the piano, without being the embarrassing bachelor uncle – or, more appropriately, the eccentric spinster aunt. My “condition” – if that’s what it was – didn’t distress me in and of itself. Feeling my experience of life constantly erased, dictated to me by people who didn’t share it, feeling myself an aberration of nature – those distressed me.

College Women Speak: None of the Above

I think sexual liberation needs to be about the freedom for all individuals to make their own choices about how, when, and with whom they want to have sex, without fear of stigmatization or their choices being seen as a personal failure. Even if their choice is “none of the above”.

From Asexual Cupcake: Asexuality, Oppression, and Placement

As for the argument that asexuals may suffer from oppression, but not systematic oppression, which is somehow the only important kind? I remind you that many of the problems and discrimination asexuals face is from society as a whole, and from other people. Social oppression is a form of systematic oppression.


  1. Hey, I just wanted to say that I feel grateful every time I see you write about asexual oppression. I can’t remember if you ever responded to my topic on Apositive about asexual oppression, but I got dismissed rather quickly there and started to think I might be alone in seeing asexual oppression.

    I’m cheering for you from the side-lines!

    Comment by Mage — January 25, 2011 @ 10:22 pm | Reply

    • I can’t remember either–probably not, as I haven’t felt comfortable on Apositive in a long time. And thank you for the cheering!

      Comment by Sciatrix — January 26, 2011 @ 7:18 pm | Reply

  2. Thanks for sharing these. I am excited that there’s so many asexual-oriented blogs out there. I’m glad I stumbled upon this community somehow and am able to be a part of it. It makes me feel less alone to know I’m far from the only one blogging about asexual issues and experiences.

    Comment by Stephanie Silberstein — January 26, 2011 @ 2:03 am | Reply

    • I’m glad you found new blogs! And I’m glad you feel less alone, too–knowing that you’re not alone is tremendously important, I think.

      Comment by Sciatrix — January 26, 2011 @ 7:32 pm | Reply

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