I liked your pun. Very much.

I didn’t have time to read all the comments above, but I did want to throw my two cents in the pot. First of all, great post, I will be reposting it. It’s important that some asexual viewpoints get out there and people get more familiar with the fact that asexual people are all around and that there’s nothing “wrong” with you.

Now, I’m sexual. And frequently get asked by my other sexual friends about my sexuality. Because I am really sexual. Initially when I started having sex it was about curiosity, romance, and a desire to have my boyfriend put his dick inside me. I thought that sounded motivating/sexy/hot/something I wanted/like it would feel good. And it was all those things.

When I got to college, I started having a lot a lot of mostly one night stands. At first I was doing it because I was out drunk at a party and I wanted it. Then it became a way of solidifying my self-esteem. I liked to think that I was a Conqueror. Of virgins, of popular guys, of the cool dudes, of dudes that wouldn’t have looked twice at me in high school. I was one-upping all my high school bullies. And of course I was still doing it because it made my body feel good. I desired it.

Then I started to realize that some of the sexual encounters that were the most satisfying were the ones with virgins or relative newbies whom I could teach new things to. I relished the teacher role.

Then someone once asked me straight up, why do you have sex with so many people. And I realized it was because I pretty much wanted to have sex with everyone. Everyone that I couldn’t get to know in a more meaningful way than a one night stand. So mostly I didn’t want to have sex with my girl friends and I didn’t want to have sex with most of my boy friends (though I did both that occasionally). And I didn’t want to have sex with my family members, and I didn’t want to have sex with people I knew really well. I wanted to have sex with everyone I thought was beautiful and I wanted to know more about. Which in reality is Everyone. Every human being is unique and beautiful and I wanted to see how they “ticked.” What are their quirks? I wanted to possess intimate knowledge of everyone. And sex was a quick way to get to know something intimate about a lot of men.

But then I realized that the knowledge gained from a one or two or 5 night stand is not very accurate or satisfying in the long run. I don’t regret all those one night stands and i still feel like I gained a kind of knowledge and education from every sexual encounter. But I was in a rut. I needed to have different kind of relations with people.

So I got me a boyfriend, and we only had sex with each other. And I learned some things about him. New knowledge, kiinds of knowledge I had never learned about anyone before. And that’s super cool.

after that brief monogamous 5 months, I came back to my mother’s house, started OKCupid dating and soon after met my partner of over 8 months. We are polyamorous and open, and I have a handful of other sexual partners. I still wanna have sex with pretty much everyone I don’t know enough about, and still want to have sex with many people that I do know plenty about. It mainly has to do with curiousity and a desire to have their genitals and hands and mouths touch my genitals and hands and mouths. It’s a feeling in my gut. That is driven perhaps by a biological desire to have a baby. And also still driven (though to a much lesser extent than in college) to possess knowledge of a large variety of the human race.

I enjoy sex. All kinds of sex. Anal, oral, vaginal, manual, tantric (currently in the baby stages of this)
And I love kissing passionately.

So I have sex because I enjoy it and I desire people because I WANT TO KNOW ALL THE THINGS.
If I didn’t want to KNOW ALL THE THINGS, then I would probably still want to have sex with my beautiful vibrator Ina.

I have been masturbating to orgasm since I was 3 years old.